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The Unexpected Joy Of Being Sober
“I was afraid to silence the “here’s all the things you’re doing wrong, here’s all the ways you are broken” voice for a long time. I thought that’s what kept me motivated, humble and on the right path. Not so. It kept me down and wanting to drink.”
I really relate to this ☝️. For the longest time I thought that if I wasn’t hard on myself then how was I going to grow? I couldn’t let myself get away with this. I had to be my harshest critic in order to grow. I’ve since learned, shame and negativity are the worst motivators. It doesn’t work, it only brings you down.
“I know now that my thoughts don’t have to lead to action. I’m feeling more and more safe. I’m not afraid of myself anymore. Now I am really beginning to trust myself again, and have faith that my actions mirror my intentions.”
This past year I’ve also been on a journey of learning to trust myself. Trust my instincts, my desires, my boundaries.
“Something I wish more people would realize is, that addiction is not the brain being irrational,” says Kirb. “It’s the brain doing its job. When you have anxiety, your brain says alcohol is the solution to that, because it has worked in the past. With many years of repetition, that sticks, so that the brain then automatically suggest it. Your brain is merely trying to solve your problem.”
I really enjoyed this book, written in a different format than I’m used to as far as book layouts go. At times funny, deeply dark, and hopeful.
“God isn’t waiting for you to become thinner or heterosexual or married or celibate or more ladylike or less crazy or more spiritual or less of an alcoholic in order to love you. Also, I would argue that since your ideal self doesn’t actually exist, it would follow that the “you” everyone in your life loves is your actual self, too.”
Nadia Bolz-Weber is the spiritual soul sister I never knew I needed.
I seriously vibe with her insight, her experience, and the meaning and truth she shares from scripture.
If you grew up in a conservative and religious household then you probably have experience with the 90’s purity culture. Over the past few years I’ve read a few books on the topic, unlearning all of the damaging teachings and the trauma that comes from that.
I highly recommend this book for anyone looking to start the healing process from purity culture and learn a LOT about what sexuality and scripture mean together.
“So my argument in this book is this: we should not be more loyal to an idea, a doctrine, or an interpretation of a Bible verse than we are to people. If the teachings of the church are harming the bodies and spirits of people, we should rethink those teachings.”
“My Christian faith tells me that good news is only good if it is for everyone, otherwise it’s just ideology.”
“The religiosity of the prohibition movement was stoked by a genuine desire to lead holy lives pleasing to God. But purity is easier to regulate than holiness.”
“To God, everyone is different but no one is special. You’re not special for being straight. Or gay. Or male. Or cis. Or trans. Or asexual. Or married. Or sexually prodigious. Or a virgin. We all have the same God who placed the same image and likeness within us and entrusted us imperfect human beings with such mind blowing things as sexuality and creativity and the ability as individuals to love and be loved as we are.”
Think Like A Monk
I don’t really have a fascination with monks or the monk lifestyle. My goal isn’t really to “think like a monk”. But I picked up this book on a recommendation and I’m glad I did!
After living like a monk for three years Jay Shetty realized he could do more good leaving the ashram and taking what he learned to help the masses. So he moved back to London.
This book really starts from the foundations and builds from there touching on topics like letting go, using your fear, routines, relationships, service, and more.
I love soaking up how other people approach challenges in life and Jay sure has a lot of wisdom to share. It’s not like a “religious” book but really focuses more on monk mindset.
Here are some quotes from the book.
“When we tune out the opinions, expectations, and obligations of the world around us, we begin to hear ourselves.”
“Fear motivates us. Sometimes it motivates us toward what we want, but sometimes, if we aren’t careful, it limits us with what we think will keep us safe.”
“Satisfaction comes from believing in the value of what you do.”
On routines: “Location has energy; time has memory. If you do something at the same time every day, it becomes easier and natural. If you do something in the same space every day, it becomes easier and natural.”
“If you’ve lost yourself in the relationship, find yourself in the heartbreak.”
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“The term poor is used to represent those without money, and it is also a descriptor meaning out right badness, as in “poor health” or “poor test results”. In a country where personal value is supposed to create wealth, it is easy for a poor person to feel himself a bad one.”
This memoir was written by Sarah as Marsh, a journalist, former professor, and writer that grew up under the poverty line in rural Kansas. In this book she chronicles her families history, the relationships, economics, and teenage pregnancies that made up theirs family.
Throughout the book Sarah speaks to an unknown potential child, one she aims to never have, and break the cycle of abuse, poverty, and alcoholism that she grew up with.
This is a great memoir about “working hard and being broke in the richest country on earth.”