What do you mean be nice to myself?
If I’m not hard on myself…how will I improve?
That’s how I’ve thought about self-compassion. If I’m not critical of my actions and emotions, then how can I get better?
But lately, I’ve been reconsidering this stance.
Have you ever had a good coach? Have you ever had a bad coach? Growing up in soccer, I’ve had both.
When I think back to coaches who were motivating and inspiring, they were always kind.
They didn’t belittle, scream at you, or make you feel worthless because you weren’t perfect.
I’ve never created something great that began in shame.
Shame is not a worthwhile motivator.
Through many years of therapy and most recently my work with a nutritionist, I’ve learned to accept that I have worth…as I am now.
Not when I am skinny / rich / beautiful enough. Worthy now.