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Four Things I’m Working On

Last year brought some of the biggest changes in my life so far. Throughout the upheaval, I resolved to make my mental and emotional health a top priority.

However, that has not always been the case. Changing 28+ years of habits and patterns is challenging to say the least.

Up until recently, I was simply trying to do the best I could with the coping skills I had. Hint: they were not the healthiest coping strategies.

That has to change.

I’ve written before about going to therapy and living with anxiety. Anxiety can be isolating and I find that reaching out to others immediately improves my constitution. I hope in some way, it can help you too.

While no blog post will sum up my entire experience navigating through those challenges, I want to share two strategies that have helped me grow and work on negative patterns and habits in my life.

Deeply Feeling Hard Emotions

As humans, our natural tendency is to take the easy way. It’s a basic survival skill.

I was chatting with a new friend the other day over kombucha and pizza and she said something that lit a light in my brain (allow me to paraphrase): when I let myself actually GO THERE, to those sad, dark, hard feelings, it’s never as scary as I’m making it out to be. It’s not unbearable, I’m still alive.

The bottom line is: these feelings are survivable. The only way out is through. Our thoughts and emotions produce physical responses in our bodies, and constantly stuffing them away and not facing up to how we’re are feeling (however hard or ugly that may be) does not allow those emotions or thoughts to be released from your body. The tension just sits there under the surface, boiling, until one day someone forgets to take the trash out and all hell breaks loose. That’s not how I want to live.

Recognizing + Redirecting

It comes down to this: Recognizing toxic thought patterns and redirecting. 

My inner dialogue can be the ultimate mean girl directed entirely on myself. I would never talk to others the way I talk to myself, and I’m learning to push away the negativity and show myself some compassion and care.

Treating Myself Like A Friend

I don’t have much patience with myself. I don’t allow a margin for error. Learning to treat myself with the understanding and patience I would extend towards a friend is just being a decent human being. If I’m kind and caring with others in my life, that should also include the person I spend the most time with, aka me.

Redefining Success

What does success look like to you? Is it a certain house? Paycheck? Number of passport stamps? Making more money than your parents did?

What if success were instead focused on emotional and mental health. What are the three emotions that you feel the most often? Mine are anxiety, worthlessness, and joy. What if success looked more like feeling joy, contentment, and stability 80% of the time instead of those other awful feelings? THAT’S what success looks like. Navigating life in a healthy and sustainable way.

I hope you find these strategies helpful, as I have. But still the most important “strategy” that has made a difference in my emotional wellbeing is connection. Connecting with other people and talking through life problems. THAT is a game changer for me. I hope you take the time reach out to someone, it can work wonders.

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  • Being brave and growing your business does not come from staying safe and never sharing your work.

I work with a lot of service-based business owners and one common mistake I see across all of their websites is they are not presenting their services and business with confidence.

It can be scary to act confidently. I get it. I face this fear every week!

However, if you want to reach more people because you *know* that you can help them in a real way, then start by showing up and putting your work out there.

So where do you begin? Head over to my blog where I’m sharing how I push past the fear of putting myself out there (link in profile). #entrepreneurlife #entrepreneurship #smallbiztips #goldencolorado #denverco #webdesigner #mondaymotivation
  • So much for autumn 🍂 🤷🏼‍♀️
  • Seeing as today is #MentalHealthDay I thought I'd share a little bit about my ESA dog Jax, what being an ESA dog means, and the difference between an ESA, therapy, and service animal.

Over the years Jax has traveled with me all across the country and even did his first international trip last year!

So to start, here’s the difference between the three…

A THERAPY dog is a dog that is trained to offer comfort and to interact with people to help them feel better. They often have the training to be calm around medical equipment (things like IV lines, wheelchairs, and oxygen tanks). These dogs can be certified at different levels and could potentially work at a children’s hospital or nursing home.

A SERVICE dog is specially trained to perform a function or job for an owner who has a physical, intellectual, or emotional disability. This can be anything from seeing-eye dogs to medical alert dogs trained to sniff out seizures, heart defects, and other medical issues.

An ESA dog is an emotional support dog that offers comfort to people who are diagnosed with an emotional or mental health disorder. In order to qualify for an ESA dog, you must be certified as emotionally disabled by a psychologist, therapist, psychiatrist or other duly-licensed mental health professional. Unlike service or therapy dogs, ESA dogs do not have to go through a specific training but MUST qualify by not causing a disturbance or hardship while out in public spaces and for a property manager/landlord.

I won’t go into the details of why my doctor, therapist and I decided that certifying Jax as an ESA dog would be a great option for me, but ever since Jax has been by my side I haven’t had one major panic attack since. I mean…look how cute he is! He has no travel anxiety whatsoever - in a plane, in a car, on a train, nada. He’s very calm in public and has excellent leash manners and the temperament to go with being an ESA dog.

Even though traveling with Jax definitely brings more stares and all the extra attention from fellow travelers can be uncomfortable, having him by my side is 100% worth it.

Swipe to see photos of Jax at werk and a puppy pic!
  • The first snow ❄️ always makes me happy.

#logcabinliving #mountainmornings #coalcreekcanyon #goldencolorado #snowday #firstsnow
  • When I started working with Caroline of Linden Co. Floristry, she wanted a new website design that would represent her business in a sophisticated way, but still capture the elements of her brand that are unique and unusual.

She needed a website that would not only attract the attention of future clients, but also inspire them and cast the vision of what it would be like to work with Linden Co on floral design for their event.

In this website visual guide I put forth two options of what the vibe and feel of the new website could look like. I do this so that before any coding beings, we are on the same page. Same page = streamlined project + less stress!

Which one is your favorite? Tell me in the comments!

#webdesign #webdesigner  #webdeveloper #webdevelopment #wordpress #wordpressdesigner #womenintech #learntocode #girlswhocode #remotework #workfromhome #denverco #boulderco #goldenco #coloradodesigner #coloradowebdesign #workfromwherever #womenwhohustle
  • Saturday morning chores. 🍁 
#saturdaymorning #chores #logcabin #mountainliving #autumn #mountainworkout
  • The minute I sit down to take an online course a pile of pups arrive 😂it's getting colder each day up here in the mountains so I don't mind the cuddles.

Every Friday I've begun taking some time out of my work day to continue learning and polishing up my skills as a strategic web designer.

Here I'm finishing up a course on conversion copywriting that has COMPLETELY changed the way I write sales pages, client websites, and even my own website! So glad I decided to take it.

Do you take any online courses? If you could take a course on anything in the world, what would it be? 
#webdesign #webdesigner  #webdeveloper #webdevelopment #wordpress #wordpressdesigner #womenintech #learntocode #girlswhocode #remotework #workfromhome #denverco #boulderco #goldenco #coloradodesigner #coloradowebdesign #workfromwherever #womenwhohustle #conversioncopywriting #copywriting #logcabinliving #cabinlife #udemy
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